My Super Tiny Teeny-Weeny Ex - 12

Sydney came home from work, took a shower and came to bed ready to have sex as usual. It was hard for me to open my legs up to him knowing that he’d been lying to me all this time, but I made myself do it, like I had done for the past six months since I’d found out about how much money he was hiding. Even when I hinted around for things that we needed in the house or how a bill was about to go unpaid and said things like “We’re going to have to come up with the money some how,” he never gave any indication that he had it in the bank. Nor did he produce any cash.

Not wanting him in my face, I let him in from behind and falsified my moaning and groaning, encouraging Sydney to finish his poking faster. When he was done, he collapsed and pulled me to him. “I’ll be ready for round two in about an hour,” he chuckled.

I lay there silently in random thought about how challenging marriage really was. When I heard Sydney begin to snore softly, I scooted forward out of the spoon.

“Where you going?” he mumbled putting forth a little effort to keep me in place.

“I need some water,” I lied. I wasn’t thirsty; I just couldn’t lay there one more second in the arms of a man who refused exert any more effort, no matter how slight, to better his own life, and then be so selfish on top of that. It was a turn off, no matter how good the sex could be.

“Bring me something to drink when you come back,” he mumbled. “Please.”

“Okay.”

With no specific purpose other than to get out of Sydney’s presence, I walked to the kitchen and leaned against the counter, folding my arms across my chest. There was complete silence other than the ticking of a wall clock. The sound drew my eyes to it and reminded me that there were only three sleeping hours left before I would have to get up, get the kids ready and go to work. Sydney was working from four to midnight, so it only seemed logically right that he would get Casey off to school, and keep Carlos, during the day time, but he still refused forcing me to pay the extra daycare money anyway.

I was so disgusted with my lying lazy husband.

Which made me think about Quinton Larowe.

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Millionaire Status - K. Matthews

Several years ago I read T.D. Jakes' The Great Investment, and Glenda Bridforth's  "Girl, Get Your Money Straight."  It was what I needed at the time to . . . well, get my money straight.  I had a job that paid well (in exchange for a ton of hours that took away from my family), and like any woman, I appreciated new snazzy shoes and a nice outfit, but I was hardly a shop-a-holic. None-the-less, I couldn't figure out why I couldn't rise above living from pay check to pay check. Something had to change.

As I read these two books, I became empowered to be a big girl and face my financial challenges. Actually, being a big girl was not enough - I had to be a grown woman. I had to look at how and where I spent every dime, create some strategies for reducing my debt, and build a solid savings plan. It took focus, discipline and sacrifice, but I was so proud of myself when I could pull up my bank account without biting my nails hoping that a check I'd written didn't make it to the bank before my paycheck. I no longer had to shy away in embarrassment from someone who said "how's your credit?" And I can still remember the day I was able to truly confess that I owed nothing to any man, a confession our church congregation stated every Sunday, in faith.

Since that time, I've maintained my great credit rating but have only done an "okay" job with managing my finances.  But I plan to be a millionaire. Just doing "okay" is not going to get me there. If it's a true goal, it will take constant focus and strategy. Which is why I'm so excited about www.mint.com, a financial website that tracks every single account I have (even PayPal), categorizes my spending, helps me to set realistic and financial goals and keeps me on focus. It shows with a click my current net worth, debt to income, available cash, and will even track my tax related expeditures.

I'm loving it. It's definitely going to help me to keep track of my millions.

'Keeping my money straight' - Kimberly

PLEASE Let Me Be Your Slave! - K Matthews

Lavar Burton depicted as a slave

"Please, please, PLEASE!  Please let me be your slave! I don't want to be free! I want to serve you, work for you, have you riding my back, and will even take your abuse for more years than I can count!  PLEASE!  I'm begging you! Here is all my information, my social security number, my home address, my bank account number and my momma's name.  I will do anything I need to do just to be your slave; I promise! "

Can you imagine yourself doing that? Literally begging someone to rule and control your life.

Doesn't that sound crazy? Of course it does! Do you know that every time you fill out a credit card application, or charge something to your credit card (with the intentions of not paying it off right away) that is what you are saying? You are asking and agreeing to be someone's slave.

I don't like this picture of Lavar Burton depicted as a slave. Really, it's hard for me to look at any slave images, but the harsh reality was, this is what I looked like financially. When I came to this realization, that I had willingly asked to be a slave, (and not just to one "master" but to a few) I had to bring everything to a complete halt and reassess my thinking. Here is the crazy part - because I have a good credit score, I was PROUD of my ability to ask and be accepted as a new slave! Completely ecstatic to be branded, proudly opening my wallet in front of my friends, cashiers, waiters - whomever to show off my branding of who actually owned me.  Oh my goodness!  What in the world was I thinking? I had lost my daggone mind! I mean really - who in the world wants to be a slave? Only those who are ignorant to how freeing freedom is.

I had to make a decision to stop being ignorant, and stop begging folks to let me be a slave. I had to take responsibility of my financial choices. I had to take a hard look of how I was spending my money. And yes - I had to repent -Lord, forgive me for my financial stupidity!

So - is this you? Are you a slave and proud of it?  I challenge you to take control.  YOU take the shackles off - your masters are NOT going to do it, but YOU can. If you are ready, and if you are serious - click here for a great place to start your escape!  If you are not serious - you can stay in shackles all you want - but as for me? Slavery in America ended before I was even born and I refuse to go backwards - I'm outta here!

The rich ruleth over the poor, and the borrower is  servant to the lender. - Proverbs 22:7



Kimberly T. Matthews
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